Yes that is a stock photo of a computer “executive” smashing his laptop. Deal with it.
So you got angry, and you reacted, you snapped. The problem with Anger is that anger begets more anger. It snowballs until eventually you get tired and give up. Like when you’re trying to get an orgasm and then you hit just before the sweet spot and give up. You know that? Yeah me neither, but I’m sure you’ve been angry before so let’s talk about that haha.
Anyway, getting Angry is a part of nature, now some people associate anger with frustration. Frustration is when someone is complaining, they are whinging about their situation and they’re acting like a little kid. A kid that’s been abused, not a loved child, but a child all the same. Anyway (again), true anger is when someone looks bigger than you and with true anger you can destroy anything. I once threw a pot plant out the window and my god did people get scared.
That’s what happens when you get angry, people get freaked out. Now for those of you who do get angry often but have to learn to stifle that, let me tell you, you’re doing it the wrong way. Take it from the person who got so angry they got put in a Mental Asylum because everyone freaked out about their “change in character” (I was going through some emotional changes, give me a break, you might end up there one day too, we’re all capable of being pushed over the edge). So you got a bit pissed and people are now scared of you, or you’re walking on thin ice, egg shells, whatever metaphor you love and you don’t know what to do. Here’s the solution.
Love yourself, treat yourself with kindness, you’re allowed to get angry, it’s ok, you don’t have to feel guilty. Feel better? No, well how about this. Take your anger and go and smash a pot or whatever you want, something inexpensive and see how that feels, but try and stay in control of yourself. You’re just angry, it’s ok.
See the reason some men get so angry that they can’t control it is that they’ve never been taught how. But you can learn and since you’re an adult, you have much more control over yourself. Hopefully. Haha. Otherwise you might end up in a Mental Hospital like me. It was a dark time in my life, I don’t want to have to explain it, but I will, if I want. Anyway (once again) anger is incontrollable. You need to let it out in small bursts.
Let’s see, who are the least angry people in the world? People who listen to heavy metal. I used to be scared of heavy metal, like literally scared but really I was just scared of myself. Scared of what I was capable of when I got angry (and it’s a lot, trust me, the police got called hahaha) but I called them so it’s ok. Anyway, find the heavy metal that works for you. Or maybe you need to tear paper? Bash up your furniture with a pool noodle?
See, our society is scared of anger, so we’re not able to express it. And that is toxic, so those of us who can feel Anger, who know it’s power are treated like criminals. I’ve never hurt anyone, now my father, he’s threatened to kill people, I’ve just told people to fuck off. Suffice to say I don’t have contact with my father anymore (because I don’t have to).
What do I mean by someone “looking bigger than you” (what I said above), see we are a product of our experience, of our emotional trauma but we don’t see the world accurately. We percieve danger in all the wrong places, so when someone gets angry, they actually 100% look bigger than you, in your minds eye. You might not notice it if you’re not perceptive to other people’s emotions but when other people look frustrated they look like a silly little ball of anger, like misdirected energy. Someboy who’s actually angry, you need to stand away from. Somebody who’s frustrated, you need to comfort them. It’s a bit like anxiety.
So now that’s out of the way, we can talk about how to keep your cool. See, I always thought keeping your cool was stifling your anger, submitting to it but that’s wrong. You acknowledge that you have anger but you don’t show it, you use it your advantage. Because people can tell when you’re angry even when you don’t jump up and down screaming. In some situations you might feel like you’re overreacting and everyone is noticing your behaviour, but to everyone else you seem cool calm and collected. See, you can learn how to disperse our emotions slowly, with a slow release.
And once you’ve learned to do that, you can deal with the excess later, much later. That’s what listening to hevay metal does, it disperses the anger. See people do it in the wrong order, they try and listen to music to change their mood but you must listen to music to elevate your mood. And what I mean by that is, you listen to music to help your mood along, to feel like it’s ok to feel this way and let it be released out of you. If you mull it over, you’ll release it next time you see that person (or thing) and you’ll react like a trigger, snapping at the first point of pressure.
It’s alright to be angry but you must learn to approach each situation as it is. That is the ultimate goal of this life. And the only way to do that is to approach your emotions and let them flow out of you like pissing in the ocean hahaha