I got this idea while I was watching somebody review a horror game (Yahtzee Croshaw anyone?), yes I make identifiable references to pop culture! Deal with it! Anyway, fear is an illusion. Yes I said it, it’s an illusion. “But I already know that! How can you help me?”
Well here’s how, stop letting fear ruin your life. You know how after a scary movie (and don’t lie because we all do this), the fear of the film (if you can feel fear you psychopath) doesn’t leave you for a few days? That’s because you have absorbed somebody else’s fear. What I mean is, the director created fear in the film, the psychological impression of fear and you absorb that and duplicate it psychologically. What we’re actually afraid of is the darkest recesses of our own mind, not the film itself.
Yes ok, I know that, but what can I do about? Well the solution for most is to face it, by being mean to it. In the movie the Babadook, she stands up to the monster and tells it to leave, essentially taking back her power. But you’ll notice it never actually leaves. And that’s the thing about fear is that it never actually leaves if you keep telling it to.
You can’t make someone leave by just telling them to “fuck off”, you’ll notice people respond in one of two ways. They either ask “what’s wrong” or they’ll snap back at you and then the conversation ends in a rage of hurried words and desperate actions. To actually make somebody leave peacefully, you must ask with Love and truly they will leave you alone. Or you have to get up and leave, every situation is different. There’s no hallmark for empathy.
So when you face fear and tell it to “Fuck Off’, you’re acknowledging its existence. You accept that it exists and you accept its place in your heart. But the truth is fear doesn’t exist because you’ve made it up.
The fact of the matter is that to do something or to not do something is that same thing. It’s kind of like when people say “I don’t want any help” but what they actually want is help? And they’re desperately crying out for attention? Yeah, that sort of thing. Now I’m not saying we shouldn’t help those people but we don’t need to pity them because we’re all like them. The amount of people I see getting uncomfortable when I cry is astonishing, is everyone in this world soulless? I hope not, since you’re reading this, and I genuinely believe that not everyone is.
We’re all just locked inside and the cage we’ve created is called fear. See fear is imagined, like genuinely imagined. Yes there is danger, but how often do people come at you with knives or you’re attacked with a gun? All of our strife is born out of fear. Think about a war: “we can’t stand down otherwise they’ll think we’re weak and attack”, so you’re scared they might attack so you’ll attack first? Infallible logic.
I’m not sure if that’s how it actually works but that’s how movies portray it. And movies reflect our worldly notions so there.
I recently watched “Arrival” starring Amy Adams. Great movie, I highly recommend but I would say that the FBI guy is an absolute dick. His initial response is: “The aliens are here to attack us, fucking blow them up” and when Miss Adams is trying to work the whole thing out he keeps coming up with his fear mongering like: “We need to move now! China’s gonna fuck us up!” when the Aliens haven’t even done anything? They’re just scared? And you’ve misunderstood them because you’re too scared to face them?
I watched a clip on msn.com the other day. It was headed “vicious shark attack captured of film” or something to that affect. Literally the shark grabs the canoe in its mouth and swims around for 14 minutes and that’s the whole video. Yeah sure, that’s scary but nothing happened. It wasn’t a “vicious shark attack”.
It’s up to Amy Adams in the movie to work out that she can take off her suit and face them, and even when there’s an explosion neither Amy Adams or Jeremy Renner die. So the Aliens can’t be that bad! And they want to give her a “weapon” but it’s a metpahorical weapon, which is the most powerful weapon. The weapon of kindness! No truly, they give her a language which allows her to see the space time dimension for what it is, ever growing and changing and all happening in a line. I think. Anyway, my point is (for those who’ve seen the movie) the dumb characters act out of fear (that being the government). And I’m sick of the world being portrayed as mad and see-hungry for the death of aliens or muslims or whoever.
We need to stop treating each other like garbage and I’m not saying keyboard warriors on the internet, I’m talking about real life interactions. People only react in bad ways due to fear. There’s a difference between someone standing up for themselves and someone just being a dick. Social anxiety is such a big issue these days because people are so scared of each other. Scared of being shot down for what they think, scared of not having their needs met, scared of not being treated like a human. Being a “dick” means you have no sense of empathy for another person, you’re just afraid of what they might do to you.
Now this is where the “survival instinct theory” comes in. People believe that we are wary of strangers because we want to defend ourselves, no, we’re not. Children aren’t scared of strangers because they only know Love, and they trust their instincts. Now I’m not saying we have to be exactly like children, but we have to learn something from this. The little boy in the “Babadook” says “exactly what he’s thinking just like his father”, now this is a plot device to set the movie forward, she’s scared of her son because of her dead husband hiding in the closet, but in reality all children are like this.
They just say exactly what they’re thinking! Children that is. They have no fear, wouldn’t you like to live like that? Without fear and without prejudice? First you have to accept that fear was something you were taught, fear was something that developed when you were told you lived in a world where you couldn’t defend yourself and strangers wanted to rape you.
If you can treat just one person in your life with kindness it will change your life. You don’t need to worry about Tsunami’s in Afghanistan or the war in Syria, you can’t influence those things, you can’t even help people on the other side of your country without sending them money. So how about you try and help those around you who actually need it? You know who they are. They’re right there in front of you. You’re just afraid they’re going to reject you.
Thanks for listening,
Adios, til next time.